Anger & Fear

By Helen Williams

We are often asked to teach workshops on anger management for people who struggle with the explosiveness and impulsivity of their angry reactions to daily events in their lives. For many people, anger is their “go to” emotion, the emotion that arises first, has the loudest voice and is their default reaction, and people are desperate to learn ways to manage, modify, control, change and redirect their rage.  In the heat of the moment, flipping into anger can destroy relationships, jobs, opportunities and even lives as some of you well know.

It may surprise you to know that I have never run an anger management workshop in all the years I’ve been teaching courses, classes and workshops on aspects of Personal and Self Development, Mindfulness and Authentic Living! Interestingly, I’m not going to run one now either because rather than learning to manage anger, the focus of our upcoming Mindful Living Workshop will be on understanding why anger has become our default setting, what lies beneath this noisy emotion, and how fear plays a pivotal role in anger’s explosions.   We’ll also look at how anger can go underground for some people and become a deep ice-cold sense of repressed feelings.

Come along prepared to share some of your anger experiences, hear from others about theirs, and participate together in new and different ways of tackling anger and fear in your daily life.

We look forward to welcoming you to this thought-provoking, stimulating and informative evening which is run as part of our fortnightly series of Mindful Living. Contact us to register and join us!

The Geography of our Love Maps

by Isabel Galiardo

When we love, our whole past rises up to our soul and resounds in it again. That is why love has such a high healing potential because by loving consciously we can heal our old wounds.

We carry an invisible love-map inside of us. It was designed in our early years when we absorbed all sorts of messages about love through our own experience of it. By the time we reached adolescence we had integrated a large number of assumptions, fears, preconceived ideas and expectations about the matter.

These beliefs define the type of personality that attracts us and the dynamics we create in our relationships. A belief is not just a thought, it is a whole cosmogony, it is the way I perceive myself and the world around me.

Because they are ingrained in our subconscious mind we believe blindly in them, they are absolute truths that rule our lives.They keep us repeating old familiar patterns all over again.

Notions such as:

’”I do not deserve to be loved, I’m not good enough.’’

” I can not be alone, I would not survive. ”

“I’m afraid of commitment, I do not want to be controlled.”

” If I trust and open up, they will hurt me again. “

When we learn to explore our feelings with openness and curiosity we realize they are clues to the geography of our love maps. And that is when the magical shift occurs, we begin to take ownership of our happiness and wellbeing instead of expecting our partners to do so for us.

Book individual sessions with Isabel by emailing info@mindfulme.me or contacting us. You can also join Helen and Isabel’s Couples, Communication and Codependency workshop to explore love maps and more.