When we love, our whole past rises up to our soul and resounds in it again. That is why love has such a high healing potential because by loving consciously we can heal our old wounds.
We carry an invisible love-map inside of us. It was designed in our early years when we absorbed all sorts of messages about love through our own experience of it. By the time we reached adolescence we had integrated a large number of assumptions, fears, preconceived ideas and expectations about the matter.
These beliefs define the type of personality that attracts us and the dynamics we create in our relationships. A belief is not just a thought, it is a whole cosmogony, it is the way I perceive myself and the world around me.
Because they are ingrained in our subconscious mind we believe blindly in them, they are absolute truths that rule our lives.They keep us repeating old familiar patterns all over again.
Notions such as:
’”I do not deserve to be loved, I’m not good enough.’’
” I can not be alone, I would not survive. ”
“I’m afraid of commitment, I do not want to be controlled.”
” If I trust and open up, they will hurt me again. “
When we learn to explore our feelings with openness and curiosity we realize they are clues to the geography of our love maps. And that is when the magical shift occurs, we begin to take ownership of our happiness and wellbeing instead of expecting our partners to do so for us.
Book individual sessions with Isabel by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org or contacting us. You can also join Helen and Isabel’s Couples, Communication and Codependency workshop to explore love maps and more.